The Laws of Wellness: Keys to Understanding Your Chances for a Healthy Life

Introduction: A Multitude of Laws

Most educated people have heard of God’s laws (contentious, confusing, conflicting and confounding), the law of Gravity, the law of Thermodynamics, the law of the Land, Parkinson’s law, Murphy’s law and so on. Most are named after the author of a succinct observation described by the law. Laws range from A (i.e., Aitken’s law – describes how vowel length is conditioned by environment) to Z (Zipf’s law – a linguistic observation that a few words are used often but most are used rarely).

As the wellness field grows and evolves, perhaps it’s time for a REAL wellness law-or many such laws. If so, why not associate as many as possible with one’s own name?

Grandiose, perhaps, but if I don’t do it, someone else surely will and that person just might make a mess of it. Wellness in corporate America and elsewhere in the world is described and presented in wildly inappropriate and dysfunctional ways; why not eradicate the babble with a few transformative REAL wellness laws? Such laws, if they make sense and lead humanity to sounder thinking, might well contribute modestly to improved health and life outcomes.

By the way, one does not have to formulate a law that is named in his/her honor or even be aware of a law to be affected by and to live in accordance with it. We have all complied with Galileo and Newton’s laws about gravity, well before we became aware of them.

Anyone who wants a law to bear his or her name should present some credentials. Mine are modest, simple but adequate for the honor. As of this writing, I have written 15 books, posted well over a thousand essays at Seekwellness.com/wellness, 74 eight to twelve-page hard copy wellness reports commencing in 1984, 657 weekly electronic REAL wellness newsletters, at least a thousand lecture presentations in a dozen countries while spending 43 years (since 1970) dreaming about the ways to and chances of vastly improved environments and cultures for greater health and happiness.

All of which has led to this moment-the time when I offer the universe Ardell’s two laws of REAL wellness.

Ardell’s 1st Law of REAL Wellness: Random Chance, Natural Selection and Contingencies Trump All Else

Life’s largest events often follow random, seemingly inconsequential small actions of which we remain unaware.

Secular rational freethinkers place stock in knowledge, commitment, reason and persistence in shaping and fine-tuning lifestyle habits. We embrace perspectives and behaviors on matters existential and otherwise designed to render positive states of enjoyment and well-being. We consciously seek happiness, freedom, physical fitness, love, mutually satisfying relationships and multiple skills. What matters most, what affects our successes and outcomes, appears more or less to be under our field of control. Alas, this functional and preferred way of thinking is largely illusory. There are three far more consequential realities not under your influence in any way. Furthermore, these three factors render the quality and duration of your existence unpredictable and unknowable. They are: 1) random chance or fortune; 2) natural selection; and 3) contingencies.

Ardell’s 2nd Law of REAL Wellness: Relative to Ardell’s 1st Law of REAL wellness, other REAL wellness laws don’t amount to much.

Considering the immense black hole power of the first law, additional such laws play a modest role in efforts to shape life quality and longevity.

But, that does not obviate the case for added laws of REAL wellness. The fact is that most of the eponymous laws on the books are useless to most people but are yet of interest and even helpful for a few. I’m in my eighth decade; I’m not aware of any occasion when I would have benefited from an awareness of Aitken’s law or Zipf’s law. I heard of neither until I began the research for this essay. Ditto tons of other laws.

Relative to the 1st law above, this law and those that follow do not amount to much. Nevertheless, I hereby offer a few more, just the same. They can’t hurt.

Ardell’s 3rd Law of REAL Wellness: Finding your passion is fine but keep going-become great at it.

Since few of us enjoy royal lineage or handsome trusts that assure first-class travel in life with little or no need for labor, we must choose trades of sorts to pay our way through life. Thus, we are wise to adopt a long-term goal of studying and laboring at a trade that will prove enjoyable and satisfying, as well as properly remunerative.

When this challenge is met, your way of earning a living won’t seem like work.

Thus the 3rd law – master a passion. Start by following varied interests and, after years and years if not decades of trial and error, settle into one of them, immersing yourself in it.

Be somewhat realistic but guard against premature realism-while not everyone can get elected, be in the movies or play in the NBA or NFL, a select few can. Focus on what excites talents and gifts. Put in the time required to qualify for Carnegie Hall (i.e., practice, practice, practice-take account of Malcolm Gladwell’s 10,000 hours rule).

The goal here is that at some point in your career somebody, somewhere, for some good or strange reason, will pay you to do what you enjoy doing-because you are so spectacular at whatever it is you have honed to a level of artful mastery.

Robert Frost expressed the idea of this law in his poem “Two Tramps in Mud Time:”

My goal in life is to unite my vocation
with my avocation.
As my two eyes make one in sight.
For only where love and need are one
And work is play for mortal stakes
Is the deed ever really done
For heaven’s and future’s sake.

Ardell’s 4th Law of REAL Wellness: Better to chase after fun than to flee from pain.

Forget an ounce of prevention. That may indeed be worth a pound of cure, but even a grain of REAL wellness is worth a ton of prevention. Prevention is so old school-it’s vintage medical thinking focused upon avoiding negative outcomes. Furthermore, there is no fun in working so as not to experience a negative outcome.

Instead of preventing something, pursue positive results via proactive initiatives that amuse and satisfy. REAL wellness initiatives guided by reason, exuberance, athleticism and liberty are more likely to be exciting and enjoyable. Such efforts will reinforce good intentions far more than waiting around for negative states not to occur thanks to preventive strategies!

Naturally, SOME prevention is good. Birth control prevention is good, disease prevention is good-you get the idea.

Ardell’s 5th Law of REAL Wellness: Scrutinize the role you played in any scene, good or bad, and make adjustments.

Make personal responsibility your default setting. Yes, initially it is easier, cheaper and more convenient to blame, excuse, deny and/or ignore responsibility than to embrace it. Such are the current default settings in most cultures, including our own. In the long if not medium range, however, it is healthier, more satisfying and more effective to assume at least some degree of responsibility. This approach allows you to make adjustments independent of actions by others. Your own actions are the surest steps to supporting your interests.

Ardell’s 6th Law of REAL Wellness: Dead, bloated rhino equivalents are the staff of life.

All aspects of REAL wellness are not likely to be equally important for everyone. We’re all quite different in so many ways, though we are alike in many ways, as well. But, our circumstances, resources, capacities and the like vary significantly. Among the most important elements for enjoying life must be the experience of plentiful DBRU equivalents, an active interest in and life-long openness to new meanings and a commitment to and maintenance of a remarkably fit body.

Therefore, in addition to mastering an understanding and acceptance of the reality of Ardell’s 1st Law of REAL Wellness, make a point of always trying to look on the bright side of life. If the latter seems difficult, take comfort from the words expressed by the mother of Woody Allen’s character in Annie Hall. Having just read that the universe is expanding, Allen’s character laments that he’s too worried to do his homework. “Someday it will break apart and that will be the end of everything.”

“But,” his Mother snaps, “you’re here in Brooklyn! Brooklyn is not expanding.”

Parting Thoughts

Wherever you are, whether it’s expanding or not, don’t worry about it. You don’t have enough time left to waste energy on such trivia as an expanding universe-or much of anything else. Get on with your life, focus on the bright side of life, find ways to have some fun and bring back to conscious awareness my 1st Law of REAL wellness. All will turn out for the best if random chance smiles upon you, if the natural selection processes that led to your creation turn out to be fortuitous and if the contingencies that got you where you are and those straight ahead turn out in your favor.

Consider Robert Green Ingersoll’s response to a reporter’s question in 1898:

No one should fail to pick up every jewel
of joy that can be found in his path.

Everyone should be as happy as he can,
provided he is not happy at the expense
of another, and no person rightly constituted
can be happy at the expense of another.

So let us get all the good we can between
the cradle and the grave; all that we can of
the truly dramatic; all that we can of music;
all that we can out of art; all that we can of
enjoyment; and if, when death comes, that
is the end, we have at least made the best
of this life; and if there be another life, let us
make the best of that.

Universal Laws-Understanding How They Affect Your Life

There are laws that govern the universe and consequently affect your life every single day. Take for instance the Law of Gravity. This law allows you the ability to walk firmly on the ground and not float around aimlessly in space. You know this law because if you drop something it falls immediately downward to the ground or floor, yet I doubt you seldom ever consciously stop to think about this law and its importance in your life. Regardless of whether you consciously think about it, it exists and is always part of your everyday life.

So it is with the other many laws of our universe. Whether you ever think about them consciously, they are always actively playing out in your life, each one interplaying with the others. Most of you have heard of the Law of Attraction and are probably striving to attract particular things into your life – better job, soulmate relationship, more money, great health, and so forth. Yet it seems these things often elude you and so you ask “Why isn’t it working?”

Recently I listened to a webinar that shared some very enlightening explanations of how these laws work, so I felt guided to share them with you after I realized why we can be so off track in trying so hard to attract what we want. As I mentioned above, each universal law interplays with another, so if one is off course, it will throw off the next, which in turn prevents the very desires we hope to attract from showing up. So let’s discuss these laws so you understand how intrinsically they are influencing every aspect of your living.

Take for instance the Law of Creation, or if you will, the Law of Energy. You’ve heard me talk about energy countless times because this is our composition – energy. We are energetic beings who are constantly creating the experiences in our life, thus making us creators. You probably understand this law – what energy you put out is what you create – that negative fear-based thoughts create negative experiences and positive loving thoughts create positive experiences. This is a scientific fact about energy and thus our role as creators of what shows up in our life. Where you direct your focus is what shows up.

So this takes us a step further to the Law of Vibration. In essence, the Law of Creation (or Energy) produces a vibration. The difference here is this: In the Law of Creation/Energy, you create a thought that sends out the energy, but it’s the feeling in the vibration that creates it into reality. Perhaps you ask for something for your life and you really want it, but every time you think about it you doubt it can appear. You have then created the opposite of what you want due to the actual vibration you felt – a negative fear-based feeling. And this is key: You can see it in your mind’s eye and know exactly what you want, but you have to feel it in your body to create it. It’s the seeing and experiencing that creates the vibration. Are you seeing how each law interplays with the other?

Let’s go a little deeper with this Law of Vibration. In order to understand it and flow with the vibrations of love that create the good things we want, it is important to step back and not be in the middle of it, or the meaning of it. This is comparable to meditation in this way – a thought comes through your mind while you’re trying to get clear of thoughts to meditate fully, so you simply allow it to pass through your mind without judgment. The same principle applies with the Law of Vibration.

As you allow a vibration to be felt, pass no judgment on it even if it comes from a negative space. Simply notice it. See what it truly is. Do not sit in the space of whether it is good or bad – no judgment. Simply view it as it is. Then you can decide if this is a vibration you want to keep in motion or not. If it’s from fear you probably don’t want it, so release it. Then decide what you want to replace it from love. You are not creating it, you are simply feeling the vibration of it. If this seems a little deep to you, it is, but in actuality, it is realness.

Now we step into the Law of Belief. This is what you actually believe – your truth. What you really believe inside of you, even if the words you speak say something contrary, is what you manifest. As you sit in the vibration and notice what it is without judgment, you can understand your belief. Here’s an example. I have been on a path of understanding what it takes to have vibrant health all through my adult life. Many experiences have appeared to help me understand this more fully, some of which were far from pleasant. I remember having moments of doubt that I could ever become healthy as various disorders occurred. Later however, as I understood these universal laws, I realized my inner thoughts that maybe I’d never find the answers I needed, or perhaps I wouldn’t find the ‘right’ people to help me, actually created a vibration of fear that created additional problems for me. What I finally learned was to know I was already whole and could simply step into that wholeness and the process of creating more wholeness – a positive process.

Understand this: Whatever shows up for you is what is inside of you!

So if things in your life are not what you truly desire, step into a quiet space and notice what your real beliefs are. Somewhere in the recesses of your subconscious lies the truth, and once uncovered, you have the option to let it go completely and create new beliefs. So even though I had placed an intention to be vibrantly healthy all through my life, my deep down belief was that most people receive various health challenges during their lifetime, and that as I age they will get worse. As you probably are, I was busy and didn’t take time to dig deep into my real beliefs until more recent years. As a result, I delayed the actual outcome I was seeking, but the old saying “It’s never too late” certainly applies here.

What do you believe your place is in the whole landscape of your life? Taking it even further, where do you feel you fit in the whole scenario of the universe? These are tough questions for many individuals to answer, but there are answers if you dig deep enough. Now we can step into the next universal law which is the foundation of the entire universe!

This is the Law of Oneness. Were you taught as I was that we are separate from Universal Energy, God, Spirit, Heaven and the Angels? When we feel separate from our essence of love and the power that surges through the universe from the Higher Power, it’s a given we would feel afraid and separated. But when we understand that we are all connected and are in truth part of one energy, it’s an entirely different story.

What does it mean we are all connected? The entire universe – people, plants, animals, insects, all of nature, angels, God, planets, stars, sun – everything – are all composed of the same energy. There is one universal source of energy that is in continuous motion connecting all that is. Although each part of the universe may look and be different, it has the composition of energy. Energy is often referred to as a vibration – we discussed this already. And it’s the heart energy that is the cohesive energy for all humanity.

After the experience of 9/11 and the horrific ramifications of it, people came together in incredible ways – people felt empathy and love for all those who were hurting and grieving. Individuals and groups pulled together to help those who were suffering and in need because their hearts filled with love for these people. No one considered what anyone thought about political views, religion or any other belief, they simply helped where it was needed because they felt it in their heart. In this example we see the Law of Acceptance played out. This law is a sub-law for the Law of Oneness, but is vital to grasp in the light of the Law of Oneness.

When we accept, we are connected; we are one. There is no attachment to certain beliefs or judgments, it just is. This is love – acceptance without judgment or putting a particular meaning to a situation. In this space people can readily forgive another because there is a realization that the other person can be who they are and believe what they want and not fear our resistance to them. Of course it doesn’t mean we accept illegal, immoral or hurtful behavior as okay, but we can still accept and love the individual.

This means that you and I are even connected through the vibration of universal energy to abhorred individuals such as murderers or rapists; they are part of the universal energy pool. However, the huge difference is how they are operating their life, obviously one based in deep fear-based beliefs and are making grossly negative choices, but they began just as we did from the same energy source. When we understand this connection to all of the universe, we have the capability of being more tolerant and accepting of individual differences as long as they remain within the boundaries of legal and moral standards.

The Law of Oneness tells us, being that we are cohesively connected to the universal energy pool, that we are part of all that is good – abundance, great health, wonderful relationships, peace, joy, happiness – this is our heritage and who we really are, having been formed from love. In essence, we actually do not have to attract anything into our life because it is already here. All we need do is open to it by aligning to that loving energy.

We were talking earlier about the Law of Attraction and how so often it doesn’t seem to work. All of the laws we’ve been discussing are part of the Law of Attraction and must be part of the process of attracting what you want. First you must grasp the belief that you are a creator of your life. Every thought and belief you entertain, especially when they become repetitive in your mind, becomes your reality. Those thoughts are composed of energy which sends out a vibration into the universe to bring to you experiences from that same energy pool. It cannot do anything different; it always must grab from the same energy pool. So it seems it would be essential for you to pay attention to your thoughts and the consequential vibrations you are sending out every minute of every day. If you don’t like something in your life, then go back to your thoughts and begin remodeling them because what is appearing in your life experience is a direct result of your internal thinking. It’s time to clear out the old beliefs, blocks and fear-based thoughts so you can open to what is real and love.

A simple process I learned recently can help you clear out those unwanted, outdated and limiting negative beliefs you have been hanging onto way too long, blocking what you desire. It’s so simple and totally free that you may doubt its benefits, but I can promise that if you do this regularly, you can easily shift into peace and harmony from the oneness of universal love energy, and there create your wish list into reality.

Sit quietly and simply relax a few moments, as if you are preparing to meditate. Take a few deep breaths. Notice the energy around and in your body and just be aware of it. Feel that energy and know you are creating a type of filter to sort out negative beliefs. You are also grounding yourself in the flow of energy, anchoring yourself into the earth while aligning with divine love. Now bring your attention back and bring to mind whatever issues that don’t serve your highest good – it could be something small or large… whatever is bothering or depleting you, or causing you worrisome thoughts. See it, then simply let it go and watch it dissolve into smoke, wafting away from you. Sit for a minute and breathe in the serenity of the moment and recognize the knowing that All Is Well! Repeat this process whenever you have something you wish to dissolve, or even continue the process at one sitting.

As you comprehend the oneness of the universe and your connection to everything and everyone, you can better understand how easy it is to bring to you your dreams, as long as you align with them and the universal energy of love. Many times individuals rush from here to there, perhaps reciting some beautiful affirmations of what they want and what they believe, but inside of them a different script circulates. And what is held within always come out in the end result.

Oneness is a wonderful connection to Spirit. Anything that looks like struggle or resistance does not come from Spirit. Oneness also allows us the privilege of sharing, and when we focus on service and sharing the good we have and are, we open to more of everything. Vibrations of generosity, blessings, gratitude and love always connect us to the abundance of the universe and help us operate our lives in total alignment with the powerful laws of the universe.

But we must go one step further with the universal laws and mention the Law of Giving Back. This must always be part of the equation if you ever want to create the desires of your heart from a place of prosperity consciousness. It means that you give, expecting nothing in return, with cheerfulness and willingness. Bless everything you send out and it will return ten-fold – a law of the universe. This must be given with the intent of giving a gift to God, and doing so will add to the love flowing out to humanity, which is forever moving and creating more of the same. Always say “Thank you” for every bit of abundance that either comes into your life or you willingly share with others, for we know that a grateful heart reaps many gifts as it expands into more.

We’ve circled the spectrum of the universal laws from what seems like the beginning to the end, yet realizing it is one continuous circle of energy flowing from one to the other with actually no beginning nor no end. My intent was to remind you of these universal laws that are continuously governing your life with or without your awareness, but perhaps, now that I have reminded you of their immense importance as they flow through your every day life, you will pay attention to them and make necessary changes to use them for good not only in your life, but to all humanity.